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Marriage, young men are told at youth camp, is our reward for not having sex in high school.If you can keep yourself “pure” through your teen years, fellas, you are entitled to a beautiful young virgin, who will address all your sexually frustrated woes with endless sex all your days.Every wedding marks the beginning of a family, but these kinds do so in a uniquely palpable sense.Many mothers in our churches need husbands, and their children need fathers, yet for all the pro-family, pro-marriage, pro-life talk among Christian young men, weddings like the one I just mentioned are uncommon.

"I wanted a man who could rise to the challenge, someone I could follow," says Lakita, who was a virgin when she married.

I know, I know, even asserting something so novel as “children need fathers” runs in direct conflict with our moral revolutionaries’ delusional rhetoric surrounding the apparent omni-malleable definition of “family,” but I’m not presently concerned with defending fatherhood to our venerable Idiocracy, I wish instead to issue this charge to single Christian men: as you look for a future wife, don’t write off the single moms in your church.

Teenage “purity,” “second virginity,” and other gospel-perversions The odd romanticization of marriage in Christian sub-culture has done a lot of damage.

Even for those of us young men who have come to understand the staggering reality of the gospel, and what it means for “purity”—namely, that “not having sex” is a pitiful substitute for “purity” when we consider the actual purity of Jesus’ imputed righteousness—we still find the expectations of our pimply-17-year-old-selves hard to shake.

For all of our theological maturity, we still expect that marriage to a beautiful virgin is our entitled reward for not having sex in high school.

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