Problems dating black men
Black men, if you don't support us, how do you expect us to be able to support you? I never understood why it makes a certain type of black man feel good to have a white woman on his arm. Do men not realize all races of women are capable of wearing weaves and clip-ins? I like good hair." This is probably the one that irritates me the most. I digress.) I know how to cook, and I am known for being "everyone's cheerleader" (that is, supportive).
(It's since been taken down.) Black men, your mom is black.
However, the question becomes, “Is he willing to do so?
” As a Black man born and reared in London, United Kingdom, I may not identify directly with the woes of Black American men and women, but I do know that as a Black man my situation in London is not so different than a Black man’s situation in America.
My boyfriend had said lightheartedly, "I hope our son has my hair." My boyfriend has beautiful, soft curls, a genetic gift from both his races. It would be easier to manage if his hair was curly was all I'm saying." The rational part of me thought about what he was trying to say, but no matter how much I replayed it, it still didn't sound right to me. Everywhere from pop culture to the hood, men are either consciously or subconsciously telling black women they aren't "wanted." I have seen black man not even look twice at black women whom I see as beautiful, yet I've seen them break their necks for decent-looking -- dare I say unattractive -- women of other races. Granted, I think everyone is entitled to a personal preference regarding whom they like.
But when, as a black man, you start saying things such as, "I don't date black women; I don't find them attractive," I think we have an issue. As I've gotten older, I've met many men who will openly say they don't want a baby with a black woman.