Dating and relationships in adolescence
Parental disappointment creates conflict and problems in the relationship between them and their teenagers.
It often comes across as anger, giving teenagers the feeling of rejection from the people who were once the most important figures in their lives.
Debby Mayne started writing professionally in 1992.
Her work has appeared in regional parenting magazines and she has been managing editor of the magazine, "Coping with Cancer." She was also fashion product information writer for HSN.
Parents need to communicate and educate their children before they hit the teen years, and communication lines need to remain open, or the problems will escalate.
Exposure to alternative attachment figures: Has infant, especially after about six months of age, had opportunities to develop partial attachments to other caretakers and so reduce the purity of the "enmeshment"? Temperamental differences: Are they being noticed or acted on? Use of junk foods, high fat, high salt, high sugar. (food colorings, sugar, chocolate, other foods) Beginnings of group play. Prevention of bullying or spoiled behavior towards others? or associated with discomfort, insect bites, temperature extremes?During college, Mayne worked as an instructor at a fitness center.She holds a Bachelor of Science in health, PE and recreation from the University of Southern Mississippi. Other caregivers may also be significant, such as a grandparent. Is there empathy for child, humiliation, non-responsiveness? Fearing "hurting the child's feelings," do they become too indulgent? Peer-group experiences, nursery school, having other children around, reciprocal baby-sitting. Exposure to toxic environments: smoke, pollution, general uncleanliness, severe poverty Foods: Use of food as pacifier, as love. Attachment and Loss: have there been significant attachments to a parenting figure, even a "nanny" that have been disrupted before the age of four? Can parents allow for differences in taste, interests? Setting Limits: Parental abilities to nurture must be supplemented by abilities to set limits and enforce them comfortably and consistently. Fearing spoiling, do they become too restrictive or harsh?